Dependency and Freedom – the Two Poles Within Us

Often, regardless of the situation or challenge we face, conversations and experiences lead to the same theme – the topic of dependency and freedom.

The Inner Struggle

Many people want to make a change – they dream, begin with enthusiasm, but in the next moment something inside them blocks them. A voice appears: “I’m not ready.” They feel as if they are in chains, trapped – in a job, a relationship, or a place they can’t find the strength to leave. Sometimes it goes the other way – a person wants stability and connection, but their inner urge for freedom pushes them to leave. Thus attachment and escape alternate. In both cases, two sides fight within us – one that wants freedom and the other that seeks dependency and security.

Freedom – the Meaning of Life

I want to share an excerpt from a regression session I conducted recently. Under hypnosis, my client described freedom like this:

“It is the free, brave, bold, spontaneous, joyful, happy self. Its role is to give possibilities, perspectives, and wings. Freedom is the meaning of life. A person is here to make choices independently, to be brave, to follow the path of their soul, to unfold and grow, to open new horizons. But freedom fears the shackles that humanity places – norms, rules, laws, dependencies. To preserve it, we must overcome fear.”

This message is powerful and resonates with many people. But with this urge for freedom always appears the other part of the psyche – the one that fears and wants to remain dependent.

Dependency – Need or Obstacle?

This part exists for a reason – to protect us. When we were babies, we were completely dependent on our caregivers. That is a natural state of vulnerability and need for support. But when this pattern carries into adulthood, it can prevent us from making our own choices. This creates an inner conflict – between the desire for freedom and the need for security.

Where Is the Boundary?

Relationships, work, and partnerships often begin with love, passion, or shared goals. But people grow, and if two partners move in different directions, tension arises. Dependencies – material, emotional, or tied to the opinions of others – can keep a person in a situation that is no longer healthy. If we feel stagnation, pain, tension, or even physical symptoms, that is a signal we’ve crossed the boundary and it’s time to act.

It’s Never Too Late

One of the most valuable realizations is that it’s never too late to end something and start anew – a new relationship, new work, new friendship. When one door closes, another opens. The subconscious speaks in images – if you imagine a picture of your own happiness and fulfillment, it can guide you toward what you truly need.

The Danger of Extremes

Freedom is a supreme value and inspires us. But when the love of freedom becomes extreme, a person can end up alone. The difference between being “alone” and “lonely” is subtle. We are social beings – we need closeness, touch, and sharing. Excessive independence can lead to isolation, and excessive dependency – to losing oneself. Balance is in acknowledging vulnerability and consciously choosing what is good for us.

What to Do?

The key lies in inner work – on our patterns, attitudes, and subconscious programs. Hypnotherapy and regression are excellent tools for reaching these deeper layers and understanding which inner voices hold us back. The subconscious contains all the answers. When we connect with it, we can recognize and transform our blocks. If you feel this topic resonates with you, if you need liberation or new stability, it is good to seek support. It’s never too late to start again and choose the path that leads to more joy, health, and fulfillment.